Before we wanted them to hold our hands, hug us, or kiss us, we were happy. We didn't care that boys crossed rooms to talk to our friends, and not us. We were happy they weren't talking to us! We didn't care if the cutest guy in the class said hi to us. We didn't care if we got asked to the dance. We were happy to just have our girlfriends and to not have any boys bothering us.
Oh how things change.
The switch flips for everyone at different times. The switch that takes us from "I don't care" to "I'll die without him". Mine flipped kind of early (somewhere between 2nd and 4th grade). And it went hard for quite a few years. Until recently. My switch hit that magically "I don't really care either way" section. In fact, I think I'm happier out of a relationship right now. Well...as long as I still have a guy to cuddle with and tell me I'm pretty on occasion. And I see some of my friends so desperately wanting boyfriends and I wonder, "Why. They're a pain in the ass. Nothing but trouble, really." And then I figured out why I probably don't care if I have a boyfriend: there's usually a guy there for me. As much as I get down on myself, tell myself I'm not that pretty or likable, there's usually a guy there, waiting in the wings incase I happen to want him. Which was a mildly shocking revelation, let me tell you. But it perfectly explains why I'm none too impatient to get a boyfriend. They've always been there, and they don't seem to be going away anytime soon.
So here's a little "advice": Just be yourself. You'd be amazed what that will do for you. When you stop worrying about trying to impress boys all the time, they tend to like you more. Just like when you can tell a guy is trying to hard for you, they can tell when you're trying to hard for them. So just sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. None of us are getting out of this alive.
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